Here at the frugalist FIRE Movement, besides profane things such as saving rates, investing and, as a result, financially independent money mountains, it is also about the big wheels.
The meaning of life – the meaning of your life!
Have you ever thought about it before?
Until about one hundred years ago, this topic was mostly done quickly. Very few people had a surplus of their own resources available. Because most of the thought was about the next meal, all these people did not have much free time to deal with it. And for those who tried it despite all adversity, the respective rulers and power obsessed had invented a few “interesting” systems.
To prevent freethinkers from coming up with “stupid thoughts” they were not only dictatorially strict rulers, but in parallel they came up with an even more perfidious systems and they invented the religions.
People who were mentally receptive after 15 hours of field or factory work were drummed into what they had to think and to believe. After finding out that fear and anger are very powerful tools to control other people and to keep them from achieving personal goals, it worked extremely well. The jingle: “You are one of the good guys – the others are evil and have to be fought” – has been working in ever new packaging for thousands of years.
But “the bucket stops @ the frugalist FIRE movement” and things have to be called by their name. If there were a punitive God whom we are all afraid of and to live in camel-bottleneck poverty, the whole pursuit of freedom, prosperity, and self-realization would make no sense. Then the whole FIRE movement would make no sense too and folks could finish here.
Fortunately, one’s own thinking and striving is not only allowed, but desired, and even required in places like this. For this privilege, people have fought in the past. They have given their health, freedom and for some even their life for you to be able to read this kind of articles and no one is knocking on your door and imprisoning you for it.
This is a wonderful gift to all of us. But it is also obligation and pledge. If we would not be willing to defend our fought freedom in the future, all these people would all have died in vain.
And what does freedom mean?
Besides all the amenities, it is also an invitation. It’s an assignment to make as much of your life as possible. “They fought and suffered for you! Now you want to lie in front of the TV and poison you with concentrated fructose syrup or nicotine-containing “cancer bars” that you light-up in front and then inhale the poison one breath at the time”?
No? Then get up and do something!
But what can you do? Quite simply you can make a great gift to all other people. The gift is: Be a shining example!
Show us your talents!
Live out so that you shine in the most beautiful colors! Show us that you are making as much of your precious life as possible, no matter where you started.
And you can only do that if you learn as much as possible from other people and choose the right things for you, but then follow your own path and stand by it.
And “standing by” is in the end a paraphrase for a single word.
The word is No!
Yes! To your own way means at the same time no to many other things around you. Things that are often “normal” to other people and that they expect from you. Those who want to follow their path must set other boundaries and reject their demands. Can you stand it when other people count you on or even make fun of you? Is that still difficult for you?
The good news is: you can learn it!
As a frugalist, I get requests almost every day to post sponsored articles on to the the Frugalist FIRE Movement blog, or to recommend things like P2P credits that are currently on everyone’s mind. I say no to at least 99% of all these inquiries. Five-digit dollar amounts per year. No thanks!
To get to this point in my life, I had to say no to many people personally face-to-face. But still the noises became more and more, nevertheless the further I develop myself the easier it get to continue to say “No” to them.
A few weeks ago, I said a big “No” to one of my clients, after he asked me privately to accept a “special order”. An urgent topic for him but for the customer of my customer then a pure snake pit without happy ending.
I would never have dared to do that without my present plan to a real “financially independence” situation or a couple of years ago. This no now gives me hundreds of hours of available life-time for things that really interest me and for which I am passionate about. This no holds high my quality of life, which would have been strongly altered by this project for sure.
All these noes make me happier as a result. I can spend my precious life doing things that mean a lot to me. I can live my talents more through this.
And these noes are also a prerequisite for your life, if you really want to live a meaningful and fulfilling life.
That’s the real goal, is it not? Doing things that “fulfill you” and “give you meaning”.
That can be quite profane things.
For example, I like to cook for my family and friends and I would never have thought that I would feel so fulfilled with it. According to my sister, I make, among other things, the world’s best chocolate mousse. In any case, her daughter also confirms her mom’s claim.
And if anyone laughs about it and makes chocolate mousse unmanly? He is welcome to do that, but just as with an opposite opinion when investing, this is simply his point of view but not mine. I feel good about it. Cooking for my loved ones and thus caring for them gives my life a deep meaning.
Regardless of our age, we need something to burn for.
People become unhappy when they no longer have personal goals. If you think, after reaching financial freedom, you will constantly be struck by luck, even if you do absolutely nothing that means something to you, you are terribly wrong.
Money is just a tool. Alone, it does not make you happy.
But it is a very cool tool. It is, among other things, the strongest no-tool I know.
- Carry on a job that brings you nothing but money? No!
- Resign yourself to circumstances or an environment, even though you are burdened? No!
- Keep people in your life, even though they are not good for you, but you need them for financial reasons? Double-No!
If you want to go your own way, you have to learn to say no and your own fortune and income will help you extremely well.
That’s why I’m so convinced that own wealth makes better people out of us all. And that’s why I want to have as many people around me if possible, with as much wealth as possible.
And not only because then I get many more millionaire interviews from them. Rather, I know that with these people they do much more what they really want to do. They are often more authentic, and I can learn more from them. As they have fewer reasons to pretend they are less willing to waste their lifetime on things that will give them only second-rate results.
Learn to say no – and thus you say yes to your own life!
The frugalist here wishes you a successful week ahead. If there is an interesting no, let us know in the comment section below!
And again, to the emotional hanger from the beginning – does the the frugalist author of this post believe in a god?
The answer is yes, I think so. But not in the way that manipulative people have been trying to force it over us for millennia.
God is a really cool guy to me. It bores him when people only live in their rut. It makes him mad when someone wants to manipulate others in his name. And it pleases him, when people recognize their own talents and live them out and thus are a shining example to others. He is happy about friendships. And about people who realize that they have to respect themselves and have to be strong in order to be able to best serve others as a shiny example.
A God who demands unconditional faith, obedience, equality with the masses and not self-reflection, in my opinion has some big problems and in my experience, he would not have got the “God Job” in the first place.
A creature that creates the whole universe is damn cool and certainly does not need that petty fear-revenge-purgatory stuff.